It came up in conversation with Mymy about whether or not the person you're having sex with (you're also romantically involved - "talking", boyfriend/girlfriend, etc) actually wants to have sex because it's you and they want to engage in that physical act with you because they have feelings involved, or do they do it just because you're their lady/man/boyfriend/girlfriend and they want to get that urge off. I mean it would suck if you asked someone that and they say "Well, because we're 'talking'/going out of course I'm gonna have sex with you. It just so happen I care about/like/love you." It makes you feel like they don't care who they're having sex with and how they feel about you doesn't matter when you're doing it. It makes you feel like you as a person and those romantic feelings have nothing to do with it. It seems like you're not different than some late night hype they call up whenever they're in the mood to fuck. Uhh, if that's the case then ouch. I want the "I'm having sex with you because I want to AND because you're the person I'm in love with" not "I'm having sex with you because I'm in the mood and you just so happen to be the person I'm in love with." I think those feelings such be first and the desire to have sex proceeds it.. The fact you're in love with someone should go hand in hand with your desire to have sex with them, not secondary. But hey.. I only have one basis for comparison but that's how I feel about that. I just don't understand how someone, no matter how horny you are, could just call someone you don't care about just to fuck. One night stands and late night hypes and drunken hook-ups with people disgust me. Your body is a temple, treat it like one.